A discretion checklist to run before you meet anyone

Verification handles who somebody is. Discretion is about how much of yourself you hand over, and how fast. These are the habits we recommend to every member before a first meeting.

Meet somewhere public the first time — a hotel lobby bar, a restaurant, a members' club. Public does not mean crowded with people you know; choose a neighbourhood where neither of you is a regular.

Tell one trusted person where you are going and when you expect to be home. Share your live location with them for the evening. This costs you nothing and is the single most effective safety habit there is.

Arrange your own transport, both ways. Never let a first meeting depend on somebody else's car.

Keep your workplace, your home area and your children out of the first conversation. A city is enough detail; an office address is not.

Use the in-platform chat until you're confident. It exists precisely so you don't have to hand over a personal number to find out whether there's chemistry.

Agree the shape of the arrangement in plain words before you meet — frequency, expectations, boundaries. Ambiguity is where most bad experiences begin.

Never send money, gift cards, crypto or bank details to somebody you have not met. No genuine Dysire member will ever ask you to, and no member of our team will ever ask for a transfer outside the platform.

Drink less than you normally would, and never leave a drink unattended. Trust the feeling if something is off — leave. You owe a stranger politeness, not your evening.

Finally: report anything uncomfortable to us. Reports are read by the same team that approved the member, and they affect whether that person stays on the platform.